What's wrong?

• First, you have to ask yourself the question: why do I want to hurt myself? Are you doing it so that someone will notice, because you're hurting and you want help? Are you addicted to the feeling of hurting yourself? Do you punish yourself? Do you hate yourself? We'll deal with the problem differently depending on the reason. If you're doing it to get someone to notice, there are many other ways to communicate your pain. You can ask to see a psychologist. You can call the help lines in your country. You can talk to a social worker. You can talk to an adult you trust about your problems. You can talk to one of your teachers.
• To avoid hurting yourself I know a few tips. The first one I know is to look for a picture of yourself as a child. When you were innocent and didn't deserve the violence of the universe. Stick this picture to your mirror. Tell yourself that every time you hurt yourself, you are hurting that little innocent child.
• The other tip I found it in science class. I had a red marker and I wasn't feeling well. I made red lines all over my arm. Like I was hurting myself. When I got home, I didn't feel the need to do it. Since then, I've been drawing lines on my arms with a marker whenever I feel like doing it. Over time, these red lines have turned into drawings. I used to draw all my pain on my arms. It would be nice to change the color of this marker with time. You can start with red, then pink or green, to symbolize stopping the blood flow.
• If you feel like hurting yourself you can also express your pain in other ways. You can draw, paint, splash paint violently on the board, you can dance, play sports, run, run far, far away from your problems. You can make music, play an instrument, pour out your pain, your violence, your hate somewhere.
• You can also do something else. The steps of hurting yourself are most often: hurting yourself, waiting for blood to flow, disinfecting yourself, hiding it with a bandage or sleeve. How about changing the steps? What if we took out hurting ourselves, and went straight to "hiding it with a band-aid"? Sometimes when you want to hurt yourself, you can take bandages and put them where you want to hurt yourself. As if you had done it. Except, you won't have done it!

• If you hear voices, and they tell you unpleasant, mean things, first of all, know that they are wrong! It is your brain that uses your pain to transform it into a voice. They are wrong. Don't listen to them!
• To make the voices go away, at least a little bit, listen to music, loud, but not too loud. Music that you really like, that keeps you focused.
• Do something that makes you focused. Something you love to do that requires a lot of concentration. You can try reading, studying, writing a poem, watching a movie...

• First, make sure this person is really suicidal and not emotionally blackmailing you. Emotional blackmail can look like this "Can you buy this for me please?", "No sorry...", "Okay, I'll kill myself." Obviously, I'm simplifying, but it's much more complex. It can also look like this "You're pissing me off, this is all your fault, I'm going to kill myself because of you!". If this person is pressuring you, protect yourself, run away, don't talk to them again or they will kill you with guilt.
• If your friend is suicidal and is a minor, advise them to talk to a trusted adult about their problems.
• When this person talks to you, don't tell them "You were lucky, at least you didn't lose your father!" that kind of thing... Don't talk too much about your problems either. This person is talking to you, it is their moment, their emotions do not overwhelm the conversation with your own problems.
• Take what the person says seriously. Even if you think they are just looking for attention. If you are a minor, talk to an adult, tell them your friend is suicidal, the adult should react.

• Make yourself a nice hot tea, your favorite with honey!
• Try to breathe correctly, look for sophrology exercises on the internet.
• Do something you like, keep your head busy with something else.
• Don't stay obsessed with the thing that stresses you. Go away from the problem, go for a walk for a while.